Holy Trinity Church

It’s human nature to want to be recognized, set apart, or seen as unique. We take great efforts to insure this hap- pens throughout our life beginning with the very names we give to our children. Names are chosen to honor the child with the memory of some loved one who has gone before them.

With our special names we set out to make our mark in the world. As kids we decorate our bikes with streamers and flashing lights. We start to develop our own “style” – the haircut we get, our favorite color, or the shirt we like.

Certain music talks to us. Certain entertainers or sports figures become our heroes. We decorate our homes, lockers, offices all in such a way as to say “this is me”.

Why do we do this? Because we need to be noticed, appreciated. No one has ever existed in earth like you. This is something to be celebrated . . . this wonderful you. Parents, isn’t this your goal with your children? To raise happy, confident young persons who know who they are and what gifts they bring to the world? Of course.

But . . . . . . .

We must be careful here. Why is each human “special”? It comes from God making us in his image and from those who pour their love into us (parents, family, friends). To them we are special. As for the world . . . we happen to be just one of what?, 6 billion human beings living on this earth.

My point is “being special” comes from being who God made us to be and from being loved. Everyone needs to be loved. Where things can go wrong is thinking the world owes me love in the form of fun and excitement and boundless opportunity . . because “I’m special”.

I’m afraid we’re raising children in such a way that when life deals disappointment and heartache (and it certainly does), when the world turns cold and could care less about how unique they are, our young ones feel like they’ve been tricked. “This is not the world you told me I was entitled to!”

“This is hard. The world is not respecting me and my plans for life. Don’t they know “I’m special?”

This is where unhappiness happens for millions of people in our country. Life just didn’t turn out the way they thought. Somehow happiness was just supposed to hap- pen.

No thought was given to how you deal with failure and disappointment. They are given no concept of life as “struggle”, no resource to deal with life’s setbacks.

So what do many do? Some of the options available are:

1. Get bitter. Life stinks and my mission in life, my contribution, is to let everyone know how unfair life is. Be a “bitter realist”.
2. Blame someone or something else for your problems. It’s the government, the school system, the coach, the current administration, the job market, etc.
3. Drop out. Just stop trying. What’s the use? The world doesn’t care that I’m special so why should I try? “I didn’t ask to be born.”

Parents, grandparents, here’s how you can help. Teach your children that life is real and earnest. It’s not a cake walk. You will teach them everything they need to succeed but only by their efforts will they carve their own path through life.

Yes, sometimes life is not fair. But strangely enough it’s in these moments when the wonderful virtue of CHARACTER happens. (The quality that comes when you keep trying in the face of disappointment, when you re- fuse to give in to bitterness and name calling).

Yes, you are special; not because you’re smart or cute or athletic or popular or funny or charming . . . it’s because God made you and put His image in you and wants you to love Him and everybody else till we see God in the “Great Wow” yet to come.

Oh Summertime …………….Thank you Lord.

Fr. Tim

I am having a hard time finding words to express my feelings about the position I have held here for the past 18 years. It truly has been a blessing to come into this office each day and know that along with the others on staff, we would be helping all of you and your families become closer to our Lord!

As the Coordinator of Faith Formation, I had the privilege of meeting and working with many families and many generations of families. One of the things that I will hold dear in my heart, and that I will miss the most is being there to celebrate the Sacrament of Baptism. When I see the look on the faces of the child’s parents and grandparents as Fr. Tim pours the water over their tiny little heads, I can’t help but see the work of the Holy Spirit at that moment. Your faces just shine, with pure love, just like the face of our Father in heaven shines when He looks at us! I will miss this the most.

Thank you all for the “send-off” at the end of July! It was wonderful hearing your stories, sharing coffee and donuts, and getting hugs and high-fives from the little ones! The flowers, and gifts were unexpected, but very much appreciated. Please, pray for me as I begin this new chapter of my life, as I will always remember all of you, my “Holy Trinity Family” in prayer as well. HAAS, OUT.

If you’re going duck hunting and you want to get the flock to come your way, you’ll have to use a “duck call”. If you want to call a buck in the forest, you rattle some antlers. If you want to get a baby’s attention, you’ll use soft round tones and say their name.

These different attempts at communication are shaped by the recipient’s ability to receive the message. St. Thomas Aquinas captured this nugget of human truth six hundred years ago when he said, “Nothing occurs in the intellect (you can’t know anything) if it doesn’t come first through the senses.” Animals respond to biofeedback (heat, cold, hunger, sound). Humans respond to these same things, but having intellect they come to know things through sound—- think words.

This pre-condition for knowing has profound effects on our relationship with God. How can we hear the “Voice of God” who is pure infinite spirit? If you are an angel (pure “spirit person”) you have no body, no ears. There is no need to hear. Angels know things by “seeing” with their mind. In that sense they don’t have to learn; they get things immediately when their spirit “beholds” something. They know God immediately.

As for humans, God has made us in such a way that what we can know must first come to us through our 5 senses. Unless we see, hear, touch, taste or smell something, we can’t know anything about it.

So how then does God communicate to us? He does so by obeying the laws of learning we humans were given to know things. He comes to us through our human senses, primarily through seeing and hearing.

Abraham experienced a “vision” of God in which he and his wife Sarah “heard” of a promised child in their old age. What did he do? He believed.

Moses had a “vision” of God at the Burning Bush. He “heard” God say his name – “I Am”. And what did Moses do? He believed. (How you describe their seeing and hearing is a mystery – – no burning bush has ever spoken to me!)

In each case there was given this strange ability to “believe” that God was addressing them. And from that point on, whatever happened became “God’s plan”. Theologians call it “Salvation History” and it includes the events of human history interpreted with eyes and ears now open to what was heard through Faith . . . the bible.

St. Paul makes this literal connection between hearing and faith in the Letter to the Romans 10:14ff.

“But how can they call on him (God) in whom they have not believed? And how can they believe in him if they have not heard? And how will they hear without someone to preach? . . . Thus faith comes from what is heard, and what is heard comes from the word of Christ.”

And in Hebrews 1:1, 2: “In times past, God spoke in partial and various ways to our ancestors through the proph- ets (Abraham, Moses and Isaiah, etc.). In these last days he spoke to us through a son, through whom he created all things.”

Of this Son, John the Apostle writes: “What was from the beginning, what we have heard, what we have seen with our eyes . . . and touched with our hands concerns the Word of life made visible to us . . . What we have seen and heard we now proclaim to you.” 1Jn. 1:1

And what is this word that God speaks? It is the “Word made flesh”, Jesus of Nazareth.

God continues to speak the word of Jesus in the scriptures, the teaching of the church, and the voice of God that is our conscience urging us to “do good and avoid evil”, and lastly God’s word comes at times from the peo- ple around us. This is God calling out to us.

Lord, give us the ears to hear.

Fr. Tim

We are about to begin the marrying season here at Holy Trinity. Traditionally the month of June was the time to tie the knot but more and more couples are moving the wedding back to later in the summer and now into September and October.

Last January eight couples made their Pre-Cana Conference here at the parish. (Pre-Cana uses the name of the town (Cana) Jesus visited for a wedding feast and turned the water into wine. It is a day long seminar given by our crack team of married couples. It helps couples reflect on and talk about the realities of married life.)

Since then they’ve taken a relationship inventory (FOCCUS) which helps couples discover what they see eye to eye about and what they differ on. It’s kind of like a “snapshot” of their relationship, “you say toe-mate -toe, I say toe-mah-toe” sort of thing.

Finally the couples meet with the priest. We have about three conversations in my office. I hear their autobiographies, where they came from, their families of origin, how they met, how they discovered “this is the one”. I ask them what their plans are for the future; careers, children, housing, education. Most exciting is to hear how the fellow popped the question to his lady. Each one is different and wonderful. Lastly we talk about religion and what role Faith plays in their life.

Part of the reason for the conversations is just to get the couple to talk. Some of course don’t need any encouragement . . . they love to talk. Its fun and laughter is of- ten a part of the conversation. Other couples are less ver- bal, often because of personality. Their stories tend to be shorter and to the point.

Both ways of talking (lots or little) are fine so long as each person is comfortable with the way their partner responds.

But long or short it doesn’t matter . . . just communicate! I remember years ago talking to a young couple soon to be married. I asked the soon to be bride, “Sarah, does Frank believe in God?” She looked puzzled and said, “I don’t know.” A minute later, at my encouragement, she turned to Frank and said, “Do you believe in God?”

I was moved to sadness to think these two were about to get married, have children, journey through life together and yet they didn’t know if either one believed in God. Oh dear.

So here’s a little test for couples thinking about marriage. Find a time when there is no hurry, when you both are relaxed and present to each other. Then ask him or her “Do you believe in God?” Or if you know the general answer already (“yes I do” or “I don’t know” etc.), ask the next question, “Why do you believe?”.

If your friend answers generously, if they truly want to answer your question no matter how awkward it may be, you have a good person who wants to include you into this and other personal parts of their life. Congratulations.

If they refuse to answer or make it sound like the question is stupid or not worth talking about . . . beware. How will God be a part of your marriage if you can’t share what you believe and why? How will you deal with the challenges of life, the moments of Christian joy — Christmas, Easter, First Holy Communion, etc.?

God may ask the believer to be a bridge to faith for the non-believer. This does happen. But be sure you know what’s needed before you leap!

Anyway . . . dear engaged couples . . . we pray for you. We hope your lives together will have great joy. The greatest joy is to have your love bring your spouse to the love of God.

Happy Summer!

Fr.Tim

. . . Some questions to think about. Maybe you could share them with your partner or friend and hear their answers as well. Go slow. Don’t do them all at once.

Can you remember a time as a child (@6-12yrs.) that God seemed close to you? Where were you? How did it feel?

1. When I was 10 years old I thought God was like . . .
2. It’s different now that I am older; God seems like . . .
3. Moments when I find myself believing in God are . . .
4. Things that make it hard to believe in God are . . .
5. Praying is essential to growing in Faith. How do you pray? When do you pray?
6. Finish this sentence: “I turn to God when . . . “
7. How do you know when your love for someone is really real, not just a momentary feeling?
8. Do your children or friends know you believe in God? What evidence do they see?
9. Do you worry sometime that God can’t make this world “right”?
10. Have you ever done something that cost you time and frustration (and gave you nothing in return) solely because it was the right thing to do? How did that feel?
11. Has anything hurtful or frustrating happened to you that later on contained a hidden “goodness” that showed you God was there?
12. What is “a grace”?
13. What do you think children need to know to become who they were meant to be?
14. Tears are most times a sign of love. What would move you to tears?
15. What does the current bickering in Washington, almost monthly acts of senseless violence, natural disasters around the world do to your faith?
16. Jesus tells us, to be his disciples we will experience the cross. What cross (suffering) do you carry in union with Him?
17. “Life is more __________ than I thought it would be.” (What word (s) would you use to reflect your thought? . . . . Hard, happy, boring, full, empty, scary, wonderful, funny, mysterious, etc.)
18. Looking back, do you wish you could change any thing?
19. Looking forward, do you wish to change anything?
20. What has happened in your life that you would NEVER change?

. . . Just some questions to think about and maybe share with someone? ( bet you bump into some God Stuff you didn’t realize was there).

God’s going to get you. But you’ve got to let Him.

Fr. Tim

I’ve said many times that creating a family and raising children is the toughest job in the world. Parents are heroes. One of the things that makes family life such a challenge is the culture we live in. Its values and goals so often conflict with the life experiences we want our children to have.

Most parents want the “best” for their family. But what is the best? Current social norms encourage families to “go for it all”. Sports, social media, cell phones, video games, internet browsing, cable TV are all part of the fabric of young family life.

Each in themselves can be harmless and at best, recreational and restorative. But, as in all things, “too much” causes dysfunction and the breakdown of the peaceful flow of human relationships.

Just last week the newspaper reported that teens were spending more time on the computer and cell phones than in daily sleep! A local college chaplain told me the biggest challenge he had in helping his young students was to get them to put down their iPads and talk to each other!

In all the chatter of social media we are losing something precious . . . the fun and satisfaction of talking and relating with each other. Strong measures to correct this are needed and it will, at times, take courage and wisdom to deal with the resistance.

One step you can take is the family meal (especially on Sunday). Does your family have dinner together? Maybe not every night given people’s crazy schedules – – – but more times than not during the week, families should sit at table to eat and share stories about the day or upcoming events.

It’s not that any one hilarious story or deeply meaningful comment will happen; that’s not the point. What’s happening is the wider event — we’re caring for each other. We’re learning about our lives together. The dinner table is where we show each other “I’ve got your back”, “we are a family”.

Think back. I bet you could tell five really good stories about your dinner table growing up. Funny stories, stories of tears and melt downs, stories of deep sharing. Parents it’s up to you to show your children how important dinner together is. You’re there to create memories.

So . . . . . . cell phones, video games, iPads, all have their proper place, just not at the dinner table.

I’ve told Fr. John this is the perfect image of Purgatory (you can’t sit at the Banquet of Heaven with “you know what” on your shoes). Clean ’em off and you’re welcome at the table. He’s not buying it.

God loves you very much.

Fr. Tim

We are proud to announce our new Music Ministry Team for 2018 and beyond.

We welcome Linda Carson as Organist. Linda and her husband Mark, have been parishioners for 6 years. She brings a beautiful touch and sound to the organ at Holy Trinity. Welcome, Linda!

Lisa Thyne is our new Choir Director. Lisa has been a parishioner and a choir member for just a year. Lisa brings a love of Liturgy and music. She will direct the Adult Choir, Contemporary Ensemble and the Children’s Choir.

Clare Schreiber will be Music Coordinator, helping with the selection of Music, coordinating and overseeing cantors and being liaison to the Staff at HT. She will also step in to help with funerals during the week when possible.

We are excited to have this new trio in our Music Ministry, and hope you will join us in welcoming them to the team!

We will officially introduce the team in September, but feel free to say “welcome/hi” in the meantime!

Linda Carson | Lisa Thyne | Clare Schreiber

The power of addiction can be overcome by God’s grace. Period. God does not want His children in bondage. He made us in the divine image, free to act and choose. Somehow the power of addiction has captured us. We need to find a way to let God’s power into this dark and scary place. How do we do that?

It’s probably best to turn to those who have experienced a release from their addiction. The first people that come to mind are our brothers and sisters in the 12 Step Program of Recovery. Over the years they have discovered a certain path to victory over addiction to food, alcohol, pornography, gambling, etc. These 12 steps, if followed with docility and humility, will lead to freedom from addiction.

I want to focus on the first three steps as I feel they hold the key to all that follows. Step 1: We admitted we were powerless over____________. Step 2: We came to believe that God (my Higher Power) could restore us to freedom and sanity. Step 3: We made a decision to turn our will and our lives to the care of God.

Here I think is the genius of the 12 Steps. It comes by admitting we’ve lost the battle. The addiction is just too big and too strong to hold out against. Every time it’s me vs. my addiction . . . I lose. I’ve tried a 1000 times to NOT do that and a 1000 times I failed.

The key to “sobriety”, as they say, is to admit I’ve lost. It’s a moment of terrible honesty. It takes real humility. Our enemy the devil, hates it when we’re honest. He wants us to think our addiction is not that bad so we’ll continue to play this losing game with him.

The terrible truth is I’ve lost the battle. I’ll never overcome this addiction by myself; and here is where the miracle happens. We let go of the part that’s broken (me) and we turn to a power that we’ve never called on before (The Lord).

Here’s a picture of what this healthy surrender looks like. Imagine a boxing ring (sorry ladies!). Inside stands Mike Tyson (the famous heavy weight champ). He’s breathing fire and motions for you to join him in the ring. You’ve gone toe to toe with him in the past. He always knocks you out. Every time.

Would anyone on earth fault you for not going into the ring with this ferocious warrior? In fact, wouldn’t people question your sanity if you were dumb enough to get in that ring? What’s the smart thing to do? Why not tell old Mike, “I’m done fighting you. I always lose. I’m not getting in that ring anymore.” The power of surrender robs addiction of its power. It can’t conquer you because you’re just not going to play. Simple eh?!

But now comes the positive side, something you can DO. Steps 2 & 3 point to a moment when “we came to believe that God will help” and “we made a decision to turn our will and life over to the care of God.” (This “came to believe” is a blind trust. It’s a letting go. A death of sorts. It’s a grace from God. Pray for this gift of surrender). In short it’s like saying, “I can’t God. But you can . . . if I get out of the way.” Then the daily repetition of these steps begins (sometimes out loud to God in prayer). “I can’t Lord. You can. I’m yours. Do what you want with me.” Daily . . . daily . . . we have to return to these steps: surrender, believe in that power beyond yours, and giving Him charge of your life.

Slowly, sometimes quickly, the compulsion to “get in the ring” weakens. The addiction doesn’t go without a fight however. It uses many tricks and voices in your head to try to convince you how futile are your efforts. “You’ll never lick this. Think how boring and cold life will be without me to comfort you. You’ll never make it without me (your addiction).” All lies.

So much more to consider on this topic but for now I think if we focus on two things:
1. “I surrender . . . I’ve lost the battle.” and
2. “I’m in your hands Lord. I’ll be the clay; you be the potter.” You will begin to see God’s freedom dawn on you.

One more thing . . . once you’ve surrendered DON’T LOOK BACK. Go straight ahead. Don’t worry. Freedom takes time.

Fr. Tim

“These things are addictive.” he said as he finished the whole bag of chips. We all know what that means. Something that tastes so good that it’s hard to resist eating too much of it.

But in the common mind real addiction happens when we experience an inability to stop. It becomes a way of acting to which we are driven (even in spite of our better judgment). Where does this strange power over us begin?

St. Thomas Aquinas would tell us, it begins with something quite good: desire. Many earthly activities bring about enjoyable physical and psychological states. Food, drink, sex, winning, etc. We desire those states and there- by insure their repetition. Food tastes good because nature wants us to eat every day. Sex brings intense pleasure because nature must find a sure way to foster new generations. These pleasures are strong inducements to these particular actions, but by themselves they are not addictive.

What makes a particular thing addictive is its power to increase this particular desire over other human experiences. We get to a point when, without this feeling we feel down, almost a sort of poverty. I begin to prefer my addiction to all the other states of being. I seek to always increase the time I might spend with it.

At this point the addictive power begins to limit human freedom. There is no end to my desiring this activity. It will not quietly take its place among other human activities. Like the moon which disappears when the sun rises, the other good things of life can’t compete with the blinding desire of addiction.

Moments like, kindness, friendship, generosity, humor, as pleasurable as they are, are not addictive because they lack the power to overwhelm. One experiences these moments without others losing their appeal.

Where does the addiction get its power? Science has been hard at work to find out. They tell us, over time, repeated brain waves of intense pleasure wear a pathway in our brain.

Along this path, powerful hormones (pheromones) produce a “high”. The addictive behavior has found a shortcut to the feeling of “well-being”. It’s only a matter of time that this easy “wellness” becomes our preferred state. In this theory all addiction is, in one sense, a drug addiction (the pheromone release in my brain.)

Other theories are more behavior based. But they too have a “pain relief” purpose. Psychologists tell us we all have elements of emotional pain in our lives. Some pain is life long and comes from traumatic instances in our youth. Others are less dramatic but chronic (loneliness, depression, fear, boredom, etc.). We can turn to certain behaviors that self-medicate painful emotional states.

For example, a person tied to a job she hates, without family or friends to enjoy life with, with little or no hope for anything changing for the better can self medicate at the casino, the bar, the internet, the kitchen, cell phone, etc. . . . . anything to change the low emotional wellness level.

Let’s be honest. We all run the risk of finding something to which we are inclined in an unhealthy, addictive way. Feeling his weak human nature St. Paul writes to the Romans, “My inner being delights in the law of God. But in my body I see a different law. A law that fights against the law of God . . . I don’t understand what I do; for I don’t do what I want to do, but instead I do what I hate.” Romans 7: 14-25 Ever been there?

How do we get free when being tied up feels so good? A spiritual thing has to happen. We’ll talk about that here next week.

In the meantime I beg you . . . please know that God has this figured out. There is a solution. It has to do with good people and embracing the Truth (which Jesus says will “set us free” Jn. 8:32.) As usual, it’s simple . . . but not easy.

See you at the ballpark?

Fr. Tim

As the spring ends and we look forward to summer, I am happy to say goodbye to snow, the school year, and the Catholic Ministry Appeal. Don’t get me wrong, I love the first day of school (said by all parents), a snowy white Christmas morning, and all the amazing programs and ministries that come directly from the CMA. But it is nice to wrap each of them up, take a break and get away to enjoy the beautiful summer. We also take this time to reflect on how harsh the winter was, how amazing our kid’s teachers were, and if we made our CMA goal.

Back in October 2017 the Diocese of Rochester asked its 90 faith communities to raise 6.55 million dollars at the kick off for the Catholic Ministries Appeal. This HUGE campaign goes to support everything from Catholic Schools, education for seminarians, support for the Catholic Family Center, and hundreds of jobs that make the Diocese of Rochester the wonderful faith community that we are blessed to be a part of.

Holy Trinity parish was asked to contribute $151,384.00 to the CMA. This ask was an increase of almost $9,000 from the previous year’s goal of $142,438.00.

WHY would they increase this number when we didn’t make our goal last year? HOW do they come up with $151,384.00? I asked these questions while I sat in the pew as a parishioner and again when I began working here 6 years ago.

No, they don’t just increase each parish 4%…. No, they don’t divide the $6.55 million evenly over each of the 90 faith communities…..No, they don’t pick a number out of a hat. The CMA for each parish is an allocation based on 4 factors.

1. The number of registered parishioners.
2. The average weekly attendance.
3. The average weekly collections over the last 3 years.
4. The U.S. median income for our area.

These 4 factors tell the Diocese what we already know. That Holy Trinity is blessed to have a large parishioner base of over 2,000 families, and 1,300 people attend mass each weekend. The Diocese rec- ognizes that we are a truly generous faith community and that they can count on us to be leaders in the CMA. There are only 9 other churches that had a higher goal than Holy Trinity placing us in the top 10% of the whole Diocese.

So, how did we do? Six-Hundred twenty-three families (623) pledged $149,645.00. When the campaign ended on May 31, Holy Trinity was $1,420.00 short. 31% of our registered households donated to the CMA (DOR average is 32%). Donations ranged from $5.00 to $5,125.00. The average gift amount was $241.00 (DOR Average gift is $242.00) and most often families gave $100.00.

We didn’t make our goal, BUT we got 99.06% of the way there.

That’s an A+ as far as I’m concerned!

So here’s one last THANK YOU – the CMA only happens because of YOU!

Have a great summer.
Kasey Baker, Business Manager